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Is the Menopause the start of the end?

I was put into Surgical Menopause following my hysterectomy.  I was 47 at the time.  I know very young women have hysterectomies too, but I’ve recently seen a few articles and TV programmes where the start of the natural menopause is seen by woman as the end of their youth, their lives and their usefulness, so it got me thinking.

The articles and TV programmes show women approaching menopause with sadness and regret, their youth is going and they are no longer functional.  It’s not like I ever celebrated each period I ever had, I could never wait for them to stop and was most upset when I didn’t follow Mother into an early on-set menopause.  For me, the menopause was the end of what was quite frankly a horrible experience.

Men are allowed to age however they want. Women dye their hair, use all sorts of creams and potions, Botox parties, eye-lifts, chin-lifts, full blow face lifts.  Look at any magazine and it’s young, flawless models (airbrushed), they even airbrush posters of films staring older actresses.

I am rebelling.  Admittedly I’m not a hair and make-up person anyway.  I wash my hair and it dries naturally however it wants and I don’t wear make-up.  I don’t see growing older as something to fear and dread.  Quite the opposite, I’m looking forward to being able to say what I think and putting it down to something women of my age do.  “Ah bless her, she’s at that age now you know”.

I have dyed my hair since my 20s when I first started going grey.  Now I’m wondering if grey is really so bad.  In the UK, it’s the latest hair colour for the younger generation.  They are actually choosing to have they hair dyed grey.  I’m now letting it grow out and it will be whatever colour it is and I shall wear it proudly.  I’m not in my 20s, 30s or 40s any more.  I don’t fear growing old. I’m celebrating the menopause as it ends years of torture for me.   I didn’t have any doubts about having my uterus removed.  In fact, I’d have had a ceremonial burning of it if they had let me.

The menopause isn’t the end of anything, it’s the start of something new.  Yes you probably are older and wiser, but this is now my time.  I’m not a slave to my body and hormones (minus hot flushes of course – they are more like a Dictator).  I’m nearly 3 years into my HRT-Free Menopause and things are easing up for me.  Life is great.  I’m keeping active, I’m going out and doing more as I have more me-time.

I honestly feel better than I ever have, even with all the menopause issues.

I’m going to be grey, old, grumpy and proud.  Bring on my 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s and 100s  – I’m not even half way done yet!

 

 

 

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