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Au Naturel or Oh! Natural? Really?

on October 31, 2017

When I decided to go HRT Free after my hysterectomy, a few people commented on how they had struggled with the flushes mainly, but nothing really negative was said.

I have always had thin hair, and since going HRT free it does seem to be thinner than usual.  It’s very fine, very soft hair.  I started going grey in my 20s and used to dye it until my mid 30s, where I found it easier to hide the grey in blonde highlights.  Over the last couple of years I’ve really struggled with dry and damaged hair. I go through phases of having it cut out, waiting longer to get the highlights put back in again and have been in an endless cycle since.  When I waited as long as possible before having the highlights redone, I noticed they were quite white so blending in.  I also realised I had no idea what I would look like if I just stopped colouring my hair completely.

I decided to let it grow out, so I could see what I was colouring and why.   Men get comments like “oh, look at you Silver Fox”, and “doesn’t he look distinguished?”.  Women get comments like “Your roots are growing out a bit”.  “You must be due a hair appointment soon”.  I started telling people I was letting my hair grow out and was going Au Naturel.  “Really?  Why?  Wow, that’s brave of you?”.  Then I get comments like  “I couldn’t do that, grey is a dirty colour, it just wouldn’t look right”.

My hair is going grey.  Actually it’s going silver, I quite like it at the moment.  Young women out there are dying their hair grey, it’s a fashionable colour right now and it’s not costing me a penny.  I’m getting older.  I’m in the menopause. I have wrinkles. I sag (in a lot of places).  I get hot flushes and struggle sleeping at night.   To be honest, the colour of my hair is the least of my worries.

I had the highlights cut out of my hair, and have had a few comments on what a lovely colour my hair is.  If I follow my Mum’s side of the family, I’m going to eventually end up white, but then I look at Dame Judy Dench and Dame Helen Mirran and I wouldn’t mind looking like them now.

I’m growing old Au Naturel and accepting it with style and grace.  I have more freedom to enjoy myself.  This year I’ve been glacier hiking, snorkelling in 2 degree water between the American and European continental plates, and now volunteer at one of my favourite museums most weekends.  I’m keeping fitter than I have in the past, I’m enjoying hobbies and my time now.  Growing old isn’t a bad thing, and I’m ready to face it – just the way I am!

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One response to “Au Naturel or Oh! Natural? Really?

  1. Ach, you disappoint me. When I saw “Au naturel”, I thought this was going to be a follow-up to my blog about Unterbacher See. 🙂

    I’ve never gone grey, but I started getting a receding hairline when I was 19. It’s nearly 30 years since I last had a fringe.

    Why not dye your hair again? This time, not black ,but red. Then come to the Breda Redhead Festival next September. 🙂

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